Initiating the Self: Evolving the Ego Identity and Connecting to Soul

We’ll begin your coaching journey by creating an ‘internal focus for change’, an overall theme that will strongly inspire and connect you to what you want to create, transform, or evolve in your life. We’ll ascertain how our coaching partnership could best serve your travels, and what kind of alliance would most support you.

With your overall theme as our guidance system, we’ll then gain a detailed picture of what’s happening across your life at present, and how you are responding to and experiencing it. We’ll expose the patterns and choices that create your opportunities and produce your challenges. We’ll grow to understand what kind of neural programming- unconscious beliefs, perceptions, and conditioning- might be hacking your conscious will and intentions, and we’ll work together to upgrade it. We’ll illuminate what it might be time to let go of, internally and sometimes externally, to create the space for what is waiting to replace it.

We’ll discover your dominant personality types and your archetypal patterns, their motivations, fears, and desires, and their ultimate gifts. We’ll assist you in learning to observe and recognise your ego’s ways of reacting and defending, and together we’ll help it evolve into its healthy role in your life- that of selfawareness, maintaining boundaries, taking responsibility, and following through on action that fulfills not just your needs but also the needs of others. We’ll define your essential values and start playing into what could be your ‘bliss’; what excites, absorbs and uplifts you, and immerses you in flow. And we’ll start to contact the deep wish, dream, or sense of larger purpose that lights you up completely: the urge of your Soul.

Actualising the Self: The Healthy Ego and The Soul’s Urge in Action

Soul is the part of our nature that lies beyond our cognitive and accumulated identity. It is the part of the psyche that connects us with the transpersonal, the level of life beyond our individualities. Soul infuses us with a sense of purpose; it is the part of us that urges us to find the higher meaning and value in who we are and what we do.

Having developed a healthy ego in the realisation stage of your coaching, we now use it as both container and conduit of your Soul and its deeper purpose, to create your (true) Self. With your overall theme continuing to guide our course, we begin to shape the Self’s direction.

The Self is known, manifested, and established only through action. As yours materialises, you will begin to think and feel in ways that naturally bring about new levels of experience. We will augment these by defining and mapping out conscious choices and actions that anchor you in the new state of being. And with the coaching partnership supporting you to follow through in daily life, your Self will gain stronger presence and expression. It is here that you will begin to contact a powerful life force within yourself.

The alliance at this stage will ensure that you have a broad utility of techniques, methods, and strategies (the left-brained ego skills) to support conscious decision-making and purposeful action. We will develop your intuition, will, and creativity (the right-brained Soul qualities) to enhance your receptivity to inspiration and the heart’s intelligence. And we will draw these together with your defined strengths, personality talents, and archetypal gifts, to culminate in a complete recognition of your capabilities. The knowing of your own value that you then give back to the world will be wholly authentic, enduring, and invincible.

Techniques, tools, and processes used:

Socratic Questioning; Motivational Interviewing; Appreciative Enquiry; Process Coaching; The Enneagram System; The Hero’s Journey model; Archetypal Psychology & the PMAI™ instrument; Vedic philosophy and meditation; Dilts’ & Keagan Belief Change processes; Realise

2™Strengths Assessment; Richard Barrett’s Values Assessment & Modes of Decision Making; The Focusing Technique; & shadow and subpersonality voice dialogue.